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The Other
Side of This

The Messy Truth About Grief for Teens

A book for teenagers who've lost someone — and can't find language for what that actually feels like. Honest, not clinical. Real, not polished. Written by someone who's been there.

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Spring 2027
The Other Side of This by Robert DelFave

A book that doesn't
try to fix anything.

Most books about grief for teenagers are written by adults who studied loss. This one is written by an adult who lived it — at 14, when my father died — and I've spent more than 20 years figuring out what that actually meant.

The Other Side of This doesn't offer a five-step plan. It doesn't promise you'll feel better by chapter three. It tells the honest, messy truth about what grief actually feels like — the feelings nobody talks about, the mask you wear, the search for home, and what the other side of all this can actually look like.

Seven chapters. Real language. No inspirational-poster endings.

"Your loss is part of your story. It's not the end of it."

01

For teenagers navigating loss

Whether you just lost someone or it happened years ago and you're still trying to make sense of it. You don't have to be ready. You just have to be here.

02

For parents reaching for a bridge

A book you can read alongside your teenager, or hand to them when you don't have the words yourself. Because sometimes you need someone else to say it.

03

For counselors and educators

A companion for grief conversations in schools, churches, and support groups that want something honest — not clinical, not polished. Real.

Seven chapters.
No shortcuts.

Chapter 01

The Day Everything Changed

The last ordinary morning. What shock actually feels like. Why your brain protected you from the worst of it — and why that's not weakness.

Chapter 02

All the Feelings You're Not Supposed to Talk About

Relief. Jealousy. Anger at them for leaving. The longing. Laughter. Every feeling that doesn't fit the picture — and why every single one of them is normal.

Chapter 03

Nobody's Normal

Going back to school. The mask you wear. What "I'm fine" actually means. And why the kid who looks like they have it together is carrying something you can't see.

Chapter 04

Finding Your People

You don't need someone who understands your grief. You need someone who gives you a break from it. What real friendship looks like in the middle of loss.

Chapter 05

Where Is Home

Grief doesn't just take the person. It takes the whole world built around them. The search for somewhere that feels safe — and what home actually means.

Chapter 06

The Things We Keep

A zipper book in a plastic bin. The smell of a truck. An airport window. What it means to carry someone forward — and why the physical things are just containers for something that never leaves.

Chapter 07

The Other Side of This

It's not a finish line. It's not the day the grief stops. It's a Tuesday afternoon playing catch with your kid. Full, messy, ordinary life — with the grief woven into it, not gone. Just carried differently.

Also inside

Reflection exercises at the end of every chapter

Not homework. Not grades. Just something small to do with what you just read — when you're ready.

"I wrote this book because I've been on the other side of this — the side where it's raw and fresh and it hurts."

I was 14 when my dad died. My mom had been gone for years. And I found myself sitting in a spare bedroom in my grandparents' house trying to figure out what any of this meant now.

What I actually needed was someone to sit down next to me and ask — what do you need right now? Not what stage are you in. Not have you tried journaling. Just — what do you need. Right now. In this moment.

Nobody asked me that. So I'm asking you. This book is me sitting down next to you.

— Robert

About Robert DelFave

  • Lost my father at age 14
  • Lost my mother in my mid-twenties
  • Grief coach · David Kessler Certified Educator (in progress)
  • Host, Unparented Podcast
  • Oxford Executive Education alum
  • Biblical Studies · Theos Seminary (forthcoming)
  • Based in North Carolina with my wife Kyleigh and two daughters

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